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fandomsandfeminism: So, the Supreme Court 5-4 in favor of Gerrymandering 5-4 in favor of the Muslim...

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 22:20:02 +0100

So, the Supreme Court

5-4 in favor of Gerrymandering

5-4 in favor of the Muslim Ban

5-4 in favor of Anti Choice Pregnancy Centers

This is why they refused to let Obama appoint a justice when he was fully entitled to.

candidlyautistic: teaboot: This may just be my experience as an autistic person, but the kids I’ve...

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 16:00:13 +0100

candidlyautistic:

teaboot:

This may just be my experience as an autistic person, but the kids I’ve nannied whose parent’s complain of ‘bad awful in cooperative selfish autistic behavior’ are… Not like that? At all?

Like, for example, I cared for a kid for a while who was nonverbal and didn’t like being touched. Around six years old? Their parent said that they were fussy and had a strict schedule, and that they had problems getting them to eat. Their last few nannies had quit out of frustration.

So, I showed up. And for the first little while, it was awkward. The kid didn’t know me, I didn’t know them, you know how it is. And for the first… Day and a half, maybe? I fucked up a few times.

I changed their diaper and they screamed at me. I put the TV off and they threw things. Not fun, but regular upset kid stuff.

Next time, I figured, hell, I wouldn’t like being manhandled and ordered around either. Who likes being physically lifted out of whatever it is they’re doing and having their pants yanked off? Fucking few, that’s who.

Next time, I go, ‘hey, kiddo. You need a new diaper?’ and check. ‘I’m gonna go grab a new one and get you clean, okay?’ ‘Wanna find a spot to lay down?’ ‘Alright, almost done. Awesome job, thanks buddy’.

I learned stuff about them. They liked a heads up before I did anything disruptive. They didn’t mind that I rattled of about nothing all day. They didn’t like grass or plastic touching their back. They were okay with carpets and towels. They liked pictionary, and the color yellow, and fish crackers, and painting. They didn’t look me in the face (which was never an issue- I hate that too, it fucking sucks) but I never had reason to believe that they were ignoring me.

Once I learned what I was doing wrong, everything was fine. Did they magically “”“become normal”“” and start talking and laughing and hugging? No, but we had fun and had a good time and found a compromise between what I was comfortable with and what they were comfortable with. (For the record, I didn’t magically sailor-moon transform into a socially adept individual, either. In case anyone was wondering.)

I don’t like eye contact. It’s distracting and painful and stresses me out.

They didn’t like eye contact either.

Is eye contact necessary to communication? No. So we just didn’t do it.

Was there ever a situation where I HAD to force them to drop everything and lay down on the lawn? No. So the thirty second warning came into play, and nobody died.

“But they never talked!”

No, they didn’t. And they didn’t know ASL, and they didn’t like being touched.

So you know what happened?

My third day in, they tugged on my shirt. ‘Hey monkey, what’s up?’ I asked. And they tugged me towards the kitchen. ‘oh, cool. You hungry?’. They raised their hands in an ‘up’ gesture. ‘you want up? Cool.’ and I lifted them up. They pointed to the fridge. I opened it. They grabbed a juice box out of the top shelf, and pushed the door closed again. ‘oh sweet, grape is the best. You are an individual of refined taste.’ I put them down and they went back to their room to play Legos.

“But they didn’t say please or thank you!” “But you should be teaching them communication skills!” “But!” Lalalalala.

1. The entire interaction was entirely considerate and polite. I was never made uncomfortable. I was made aware of the problem so that I could help them solve it. There was no mess, no tears, no bruises, no shouting.

2. Did my brain collapse into a thousand million fragments of shattered diamond dust out of sheer incomprehension? No? Then their communication skills were fine. Goal realized, solution found, objective complete. They found the most simple and painless way to communicate the situation and then did it.

Kids are not stupid. AUTISTIC kids are not stupid.

I’m willing to bet real cash money that the real reason the last few nannies had quit had a million times more to do with their own ability to cope, not the kid’s.

To this day, that was the most relaxed and enjoyable job I’ve ever had.

And I know I don’t speak for everyone. All kids are different. All adults are different. But in my time and experience, pretty much 95% of all my difficulties with children come from ME not being understanding enough. Every single “problem child” I’ve worked with turned out to be a pretty cool person once I started figuring out how to put my ego aside and let them set the pace.

Again, not speaking universally, here. I’m just saying. Sometimes social rules are bullshit, you know? People are people

Have you ever read an article about the study that found that teaching the parents to cope with autistic kids yields better results than other therapies? Because this is exactly what they were talking about.

theradiant-child: whyyoustabbedme: Black guys have a different...

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 08:00:23 +0100

theradiant-child:

whyyoustabbedme:

Black guys have a different type of sawce

And his laces came untied lol

Two more people sent me gifts before midnight and I’m like, ‘You never sent me gifts before!! I’m...

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 05:03:38 +0100

Two more people sent me gifts before midnight and I’m like, ‘You never sent me gifts before!! I’m going to be even MORE gift blocked today!!’

#Giftblockedproblems. 8’(

Snippet

Tue, 26 Jun 2018 00:13:52 +0100

M-21 hated waiting. Especially for something he knew was coming. What was the point in wasting time, unless it was to watch him squirm?

It had been a few days since Frankenstein and his master had taken them into their house and they hadn’t started yet. Maybe they wanted him to settle in first, but he knew where everything was and wouldn’t get lost.

If they weren’t going to initiate it, he would.

Better to get it over with as soon as possible.

So three friends sent me late night gifts yesterday, which was fine, can open them later. Had a...

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 23:25:57 +0100

So three friends sent me late night gifts yesterday, which was fine, can open them later.

Had a friend ask for my code tonight (logged in just in time to save myself from being kicked from a gym, ahahah) aaaand that’s my 21st gift of the day. Dammit. 8′D And it feels like basically, once you get gift-blocked it’s hard to get…unblocked(?) if it was from an overflow, especially if the others are also active players.

Being gift-blocked suuuucks. 8′( Now I have to decide on who to not open a gift from, or just decide based on who’s the last to send, pfft.

Raided with friends for the first time today though! The teleport lines are pretty dang cool and stand out! 8D

bisexualbaker: thatoddboy: antifainternational: Just to clear...

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 22:47:04 +0100

bisexualbaker:

thatoddboy:

antifainternational:

Just to clear things up.

I would never suggest putting those links in a reply so they can be accessed from tumblr.

[Images: Tweets by ALT-Immigration ( @ALT_uscis ), and one by Arianrhod7 ( @Arianrhod_777 ); transcripts and links follow]

ALT-Immigration: Contrary to the rumors, I am not organizing the biggest protest outside every ICE detention center including private detention centers nationwide on July First. Falsehood.

One person can not organize civil protests at all of these immigration detention centers. [Attached is a map of the US with immigration detention centers marked.]

I mean, the idea of having over a million people drive up to the nearest ICETAPO DETENTION CENTER and make a day out of it is just ridiculous. Even if chances are there is a detention center within an hour drive of where most live

One last correction: I definitely did not come up with the idea of bringing diapers, baby formula, children books and toys to throw over immigration detention fences.

Forgot to link to all icetapo detention centers. This just proves no one can pull it off. https://www.ice.gov/detention-facilities

FYI June 30th is the anniversary of the Immigration and Nationality Act of 1965 signed by President Lyndon Johnson at the foot of the Statue of Liberty. I would have picked June 30th and not July 1st if i were part of this. [Pic of the Statue of Liberty attached.]

No one volunteered to create a google doc with the list of all the ICE detention centers per state from that link and make it available to everyone to see and organize locally, carpool etc.

to end this thread.
I was asked on a date by the Goons who do this. I do not feel like giving them a second date at the moment until at least after the World Cup is over. Busy.
[In response to/attached link/pic of two people on their phones in front of the Twitter logo; caption reads, “Twitter sues federal government to keep anti-Trump user @ALT_uscis anonymous…”]

Arianrhod: Nor would I ever post a link that also shows the county jails being used to hold immigrants https://www.freedomforimmigrants.org/detention-statistics/

Oh dear, I seem to have fallen on my keyboard and transcribed all of the above tweets, with full links included! How clumsy of me!

And it didn’t even end there: I was so uncoordinated, I happened to stumble upon a google doc for arranging carpools, as was absolutely not suggested by ALT-Immigration. I only hope I’m not so clumsy as to accidentally include a link to it in this post.

arithanas: gaylileofigaro: This is worse. Looking at these you...

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 22:38:51 +0100

arithanas:

gaylileofigaro:

This is worse. Looking at these you can tell they have no significant monetary value. They were confiscated as a fear tactic. Nothing more.

This picture breaks my heart everytime it appears in my dash. It’s a fear tactic, alright but—

The first one in the left corner: It’s a first communion rosary, and it’s not cheap.

The black one in the first line: That’s a widow rosary and it’s old.

The white one in the second line: is a commemoration rosary. It has a miniature picture in the round part. I haven’t seen that since the 70′s.

In the third line, multicolor one: It’s an Anima mundi, I have only seen those in the hands of Rosary ministery’s old ladies. The oldest ones are from the 80′s after Juan Pablo II came to Mexico for the first time. It’s one of the old ones, I know because the crucifixes are different.

The third one on the fourth line: Red and gold. The style is old, the metal is dark, that’s a 50′s rosary, probably a quinceañera one (or it’s maybe older, from the 40′s when the brides carried red roses with their offerings).

The fifth one on the fourth line: It’s a quinceañera rosary with Ignatius’s tear. The style is old and in my part of Mexico is orphan girls who used it. At least it was when I was young.

The third one of the fifth line: the blue one with the anchor. That one I have only seen in Veracruz and it doesn’t look new.

The fifth one on the fifth line: That’s a 90′s wedding rosary. Black and white patterns were popular on that date.

The fourth one on the last line: That’s a first communion rosary from the 30′s. It’s delicate and most probably silver.

The rest wrench my heart too, the humble everyday rosaries with wooden beads and knots. Those are cheap and bear the wear and tear of their user handling. But those I described are much more.

Those are mother’s rosaries.

Those are not just rosaries. Those are mementos, that’s the proof of their families stories. They are taking from them the only portable things they can carry to feel the connection to their families.

It’s not a fear tactic. Call it like by its name.

It’s dehumanization.

protowilson: polararts: the-bi-writer: killerchickadee: truth-...

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 22:22:05 +0100

protowilson:

polararts:

the-bi-writer:

killerchickadee:

truth-has-a-liberal-bias:

zeshuetoral:

pewresearch:

As of April, 59% of U.S. adults who are eligible to vote are Gen Xers, Millennials or “post-Millennials.” Yet if past midterm election turnout patterns hold true, these younger Americans are unlikely to cast the majority of votes this November.

Time to break the mold! This year, everyone votes!

The only (peaceful) way to keep Trump and the Republicans in check, is to vote.

Register to Vote and Confirm or Change Registration

If you’re not voting against these people then you’re voting for them. You can’t bitch about what Trump is doing to this country if you’re not even attempting to do something about it.

listen i say this every time i see a voting post, but if there’s a barrier that keeps you from physically voting (like, you go to college in a different place than your permanent address, you have work/school, you’re home with kids, you’re disabled, etc) YOU CAN GET A MAIL IN BALLOT.

It’s called “absentee voting”, and over half of states don’t even require any sort of documentation for you to get one. You can literally just. Request one. And then you can vote by mail ahead of time, saving yourself So. Much. Stress.

[info on how to get an absentee ballot in each state]

Oregon has mail in ballots for everyone, and we consistently have high voter turn out, which is why I spread this info, every chance I can.

Note: Also, technically your employer has to give you a couple hours off on election day if you’re working more than a certain number of hours, but losing paid hours isn’t an option for a lot of people. So get on that absentee request!

I’m going to get political for half a second and say absentee voting is really easy!

If you’re a little lost on who to vote for: This app assesses your political views and shows your % matches.

+A list of everyone who voted against net neutrality (Avoid voting for, so the internet stays free)
+Environmentally Supportive senators

I know it’s a lot easier to vote in Australia than in the US but PLEASE don’t let the fact this may be your first time voting dissuade you from doing so because it’s new and unfamiliar. A lot of people in the current government are counting on your uncertainty so they can stay in power. I vote absentee or vote early at a designated polling office to avoid crowds on election day - and our election days are on weekends! Look into absentee voting as a real option for you!

Photo

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 16:00:20 +0100

Lets play the game called "how did you find my blog and what made you want to follow"

Mon, 25 Jun 2018 08:00:20 +0100

I’m onto 34 friends and haven’t been gift-blocked yet. :D Have heard from others who have got...

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 23:22:19 +0100

I’m onto 34 friends and haven’t been gift-blocked yet. :D Have heard from others who have got 60/150/more than me friends that they’re kinda regretting posting their code in the code sharing chat. 8′D

I kinda wish there’d be an update where you could list friends via who you haven’t gifted yet, and/or maybe ranking. And also to freaking swipe between friends, rather than having to exit out their profile and click on the next person.

Never had chocolate but you make me want to

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 16:00:18 +0100

too bad for you that dark skinned women are people, not candy bars. let’s refrain from fetishizing skin tones.

I was walking behind a woman for five minutes and she got catcalled three times.

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 08:00:12 +0100

mybrainrots:

rafi-dangelo:

I usually walk everywhere with my headphones on, but I had them in my bag and I was reading a book on my phone instead (I do that when the foot traffic is light). A young Latina was coming down the street as I was coming up the avenue, and when she got to the corner a few paces ahead of me, she turned to walk in the direction I was going. We were traveling at the same speed, but since she was like ten paces ahead and it’s bright outside in the middle of the day, I didn’t feel the need to fall back or slow down to give her more space. At night, I try not to walk too close behind women just so they don’t feel like I’m any sort of threat.

We got to a corner and this dude standing outside of the bodega was like, “Slow down mama where you goin? You don’t have to work today, you can stop and speak.”

She didn’t break her stride. “I’m going to the gym.” The Walk sign was on, so I didn’t break mine either.

A block later, a young guy was coming toward us on the sidewalk riding his bike.

“What’s good shorty?”

She didn’t respond.

“Well you was lookin, you can say something, stuck up bitch.”

We kept walking.

In the middle of the next block, an older man was walking toward us and he put on a friendly smile and said, “Smile young lady, it’s a beautiful day.”

I don’t know if she smiled, but we kept walking. She went into the gym and I kept on toward where I was going thinking about how that was just five minutes of her day. How many other blocks of five minutes are just like that?

Only one of them was truly aggressive. The other two guys seemed nice enough and it felt more like a pleasant compliment. It felt like the kind of thing a guy says who argues with women online about catcalling. “We’re not all bad guys. We can’t even compliment women? We can’t even say something nice?”

No. You really can’t. I was annoyed in that five minutes and I just happened to be walking behind her with no headphones on. Can you imagine those five minutes over and over every day of your life? Nobody wants to be spoken to by strangers day in and day out forever regardless of what they’re saying.

So no. You can’t say anything. The quality of your life has not decreased because you aren’t allowed to say nice things to strange women on the sidewalk, but your silence greatly increases the quality of hers. So just be quiet, and let her go where she’s going.

The quality of your life has not decreased because you aren’t allowed to say nice things to strange women on the sidewalk, but your silence greatly increases the quality of hers. So just be quiet, and let her go where she’s going.

…Dammit. I’ve started updating my fic master list and now realised I have a slight problem....

Sun, 24 Jun 2018 06:31:51 +0100

…Dammit. I’ve started updating my fic master list and now realised I have a slight problem. For the most part, it’s fine, since I can link to old fic in the previous account and new fic in the new account — the problem lies when I have a multi-chapter/part fic that goes across both because I use the fic title tag to link to all parts, rather than the url.

I could repost all previous parts to the new account but -what the fuck, Adapt has forty parts??- that’d take a while, and I sometimes add a new part after leaving a fic for years.

I guess I’ll just link to the old journal tag and the new journal tag instead for now, hmmm.

(No, but seriously, didn’t think I’d written that many Adapt snippets, what the heck.)

I’m currently spending all that groudon candy I made/walked now that jolteon’s back in the rotation,...

Sat, 23 Jun 2018 22:49:29 +0100

I’m currently spending all that groudon candy I made/walked now that jolteon’s back in the rotation, aha. I’m not sure I’d be able to solo one even if I powered up three though, hmm. Buut the only reason I’d be trying to solo is if it’s on an EX location, so there would be other people doing it as well, so for now, I should be okay.

I’m currently at 29 friends and still haven’t hit the gift opening limit yet, heh, so my current strategy/thought process seems to be working right now. :D I still have at least five people to add, and will just do it slowly to make sure.

Fic: Shiny

Sat, 23 Jun 2018 22:38:13 +0100

darkicedragon:

Previous part (in the timeline) | Previous part (written)

“Okaaay,” Tao said, hearing the little dragon’s growls, “your shiny.” At least there wasn’t a lot of coins there.

The growls tapered off, though the dragon kept watching him. “I’ll just…go over here.” To the open window, which must have been where the dragon had flown in. Closing it would mean the dragon stayed, but since it had chosen its hoard, it wasn’t going to be leaving any time soon either. Not unless Tao threw those coins out as well. Which he wasn’t going to do.

The dragon did seem a little on the thin side. Though Tao didn’t know what baby dragons looked like, but he’d seen pictures of adult dragons and they seemed more filled out than this one.

“Are ya hungry?” Those sharp fangs definitely said meat eater, hm…

“My shiny.”

Tao peered at the dragon, who had spread its wings to cover the coins even more.

“Your shiny,” Tao confirmed. “I wasn’t asking to trade — just wanted to know if you wanted food.”

The dragon narrowed its eyes at him.

Tao cut a few pieces of chicken and set them on a plate, putting it in front of the dragon.

The dragon stretched to get the food but couldn’t reach it, its body firmly staying on its hoard. It hissed, flapping its wings, but the food didn’t get any closer.

Trying to hide his smile, Tao turned the plate so the chicken was closer to it.

The dragon gobbled up the chicken, licking the plate afterwards. Once it was done, it froze, its attention snapping to Tao once more, hissing at him.

“I have more…?” Tao offered.

The dragon continued watching him, a low growl in its throat.

Without another word, Tao added more to its plate, pulling his hand back as it snapped at his fingers.

It ate a little slower this time, ears pinned on him, trying to keep him in view.

“That should be enough,” Tao said. Small frequent meals for babies, right? “I’ll just-” Tao reached for the plate to wash it, but the dragon growled at him, claws scratching the plate’s surface as it pulled the plate towards it. “-leave that with you then.”

Hopefully the dragon hadn’t claimed that as its hoard as well. He had more though, but he didn’t really want to keep adding to its pile.

The dragon continued watching him. “I’m still not gonna touch your hoard.”

What he was going to do to comb through his books to see if there were more details about dragons in there he’d forgotten and could use to help.

#adorable #tao is like ok tiny dragon since youre staying let me feed you #and m21 is clearly ready to fight tao at any moment

Aaahaha, M-21 was kinda trying/REALLY WANTING to blow fire, but he is too smol to be able to do that right now. XD; There was (is?) going to be a scene were M-21′s all >8V!! *huff huff!*

And Tao’s all, ‘Uhm… I’m…not sure what you’re doing…? Can you breathe all right?’

<QAQ>!!

But yeah, three warring instincts of lay on hoard, protect hoard and HUNGRY!! making M-21 very very snappy, pfft.

bass-borot: whyyoustabbedme: Gross Also, let’s not forget how...

Sat, 23 Jun 2018 16:00:11 +0100

bass-borot:

whyyoustabbedme:

Gross

Also, let’s not forget how most of the “cheating the system” is trading support for essentials that the support won’t buy, from hygiene products to medication.

I made a list of people that I tend to raid with I might want to add later, and it’s at about...

Sat, 23 Jun 2018 09:55:28 +0100

I made a list of people that I tend to raid with I might want to add later, and it’s at about 8-9 ppl, which would bring me up to 32. I don’t want to get gift-blocked though, but if I tend to raid with the new people anyway, then I should be able to level up the friendship ranking that way anyway?

Hey so uh,

Sat, 23 Jun 2018 08:00:12 +0100

art-and-sterf:

troubled-pasta:

As a trans guy who’s been working out for a few years now and has learned a lot about their body and building muscle and whatnot in the process, here’s something I don’t see mentioned, like ever.

Abs don’t really look Like That™ when they’re relaxed.

Here’s a few examples from a Reddit thread asking for pictures of people both flexing and not flexing their abs

I rarely see male body positivity posts in general but I’ve never seen this mentioned, and honestly? Call me stupid for it if you want, but I genuinely thought that super defined look was something that was achievable in a relaxed state, simply because I’ve never seen anything to the contrary.

As someone with body dysmorphia as well as dysphoria, you can imagine the damaging effects that might have had on my mental health trying by to achieve the impossible. I can only imagine how many other masculine folk out there could be struggling with the exact same thing.

Anyway like, this is mostly to point out for masculine folks that might be pushing themselves too hard, that you’re probably doing better than you realise.

Anecdotal stuff aside, this is an important thing for artists to remember as well! This is something I never realised despite being an artist that goes to figure drawing classes on the regular and having modelled for them myself- because of course people with abs are flexing for the poses! I was doing it too!

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